My Personal Experience With Flexible Dieting Thus Far

ted kallmyer

I’m not only an macro counting author and coach for HealthyEater.com but I’m also a member of the club!

And, I’ll be the first to testify that a macro-based diet is transforming not only my physique but also my relationship with food.

At the time of writing this, flexible dieting has helped me to lower my body fat percentage to 8.6%, which is the lowest it has been in all my 42 years on this planet!

All the while…

  • Not obsessing about food choices.
  • Eating desserts.
  • Eating out at restaurants.
  • Making great gains at the gym.
body fat percentage results

My latest body fat percentage results.

My History with Getting Fit and Healthy

I’ve never been obese or even significantly overweight, but this doesn’t mean I’ve always been fit nor healthy.

Until my mid 30’s I ate whatever I wanted and worked out sporadically. Although I dreamed of having a great physique, I lacked the motivation and knowledge to help me get there.

In my mid 20’s I did start to make changes to my diet that allowed me to experience the way those changes can make a big difference. I first gave up soda on a daily basis and switched to plain water. I was amazed by how much better I felt and how much better my skin looked.

However, it wasn’t until my mid 30’s that big changes came when I decided to quit my job, sell my house, and live overseas. After some traveling around I eventually settled in New Zealand and there is where my fitness and healthy eating journey really started.

Fitness-wise, there were tons of mountains to conquer and mountain bike trails to ride and I was nowhere near as fit as the Kiwis I was hanging out with and that had to change.

Diet-wise, New Zealand lacks a lot of the junk food, fast food, and huge portion sizes America is constantly enticing us with, so it was easier to eat less, eat more fresh fruits and vegetables, and to eat higher quality food in general.

Overall, I became a lot more active with hiking, surfing, biking, going to the gym regularly, and eating better. I began to see results and this motivated me even more.

My Personal Diet Gimmicks

I will admit that before using a flexible diet I’ve jumped on my fair share of nutritional bandwagons over the last 6 years prior to starting the flexible dieting lifestyle.

Here are a few of the things I’ve tried…

  • Remove all sugar from the diet…
  • Eat only low carb and ketogenic…
  • Remove wheat from my diet…
  • Eat vegetarian…
  • Eat strictly healthy during the week but splurge on the weekends…

But, all of these bandwagons had a few things in common.

  1. They were hard to stick with.
  2. They weren’t compatible in social situations.
  3. They couldn’t quite get me to my goals.

At one time in my diet journey here was a common scenario:

“Sorry I can’t come to your birthday party on a Thursday night because I can’t eat anything unhealthy that night and your party is at a pub.”

How lame is that? And, it’s no way to live or be a friend.

Then Enters Flexible Dieting

Dan, another writer on this site, first introduced me to flexible dieting and I was at first appalled by the premise that people were being encouraged to eat things like Pop Tarts and ice cream to lose weight.

After all, Pop Tarts are one of the worst foods ever concocted in a lab and how could a site called Healthy Eater support the notion of eating them?

It took some convincing, reading success stories, and seeing physique transformation pictures for me to finally be willing to give it a try, but I did, and haven’t regretted it a day since.

Now I still think Pop Tarts are disgusting, but I now understand that one here or there will not hinder one’s health nor progress as long as they fit within a person’s macro goals.

I found my TDEE and macro levels using our calculator, entered that data into MyFitnessPal and ran with it. After all, if I was going to assist people on this website, I should at least give it a try, right?

Since then, flexible dieting has completely overhauled my relationship with food and eating as well as transformed my workouts and the ability to reach my long dreamed about goals.

  • I no longer obsess about a food’s sugar amount.
  • I no longer deprive myself.
  • I no longer starve during the week and binge on the weekends.
  • I now have more energy at the gym because carbs are allowed.
  • This extra energy has caused gains at the gym.
  • My body fat percentage keeps dropping.

This all was made possible by being aware of and sticking to my TDEE as well as eating according to my personal macro amounts. So simple, but so rewarding!

I now live in Bend, Oregon and because of what flexible macro dieting has taught me – I’ve been able to maintain my goal weight and fitness lifestyle for many years.

What About Eating Healthy?

Don’t worry, I haven’t given up on healthy eating. I still eat really healthy 85% of the time. I eat a lot of fresh vegetables and fresh fruit every day as well as a lot of lean chicken and fish as my protein sources and healthy fats. I love being in control of what goes into my body and no longer do foods or meals take me by surprise.

The biggest thing that kept me from my goals was my splurging on the weekends. Looking back, I probably ate upwards of 4000 calories on Saturdays and Sundays without doing much exercise those days. No matter how “good” I was during the week, I couldn’t drop below 11% body fat and this crept up even further after the holidays.

Flexible dieting has taught me to be consistent even on the weekends, which has allowed me to break the 10% mark and go even further towards my overall goal of 7%.

So, the reason that I’m so passionate about counting macros is because of what it has done for me personally. I firmly believe that, just like me, it will help so many people finally reach their goals, give up crazy diet obsessions, and start eating and enjoying food again.

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38 Comments

  1. Hannah Pauley

    Hi Ted! I used the calculator and it gave me my macros, but I’m confused. Are they supposed to be those numbers everyday, or do they change?

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    • Ted

      Hi Hannah, It depends . Some people have a set for their workout days and then a sedentary set for their rest days. Others just eat the same everyday. I think 2 sets works better if you just have 10 or fewer pounds to lose and it also teaches you to adjust your eating based on how much activity you do.

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  2. Zulma

    hi Ted, thanks for your prompt response, I have a lab test every 3 months and the last one show that my tsh are very low so the dr change the mlg for my medicine, i will know if that works better in 3 months, normally i eat around 1200 but no more than 1400. my exercise level is very low 🙁

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  3. Zulma Ford

    hello, I am new in this site coworker told me about macronutrients and i want to give a try since is difficult to loose weight after i got my thyroid removed, that happens in 2006 since then i have to take medicine everyday synthetic hormones that “produce” what ever the normal thyroid produce. Anyway i just wondering if my fail loosing weight has to do with the medicine or something else?

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    • Ted

      Hi Zulma, How often do you have your thyroid hormone levels checked? The thyroid does play a huge part in regulating your metabolism so it’s important that the levels are where they need to be. Also about how many calories do you consume a day and what’s your exercise level like?

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  4. Kellie

    Lots of talk about flexible dieting, so I did my research and decided to give it a try. Only on day two but the amount of food I’m consuming seems excessive. It may be due to the fact that I’m eating things I haven’t eaten for years, carbs mostly. Will give this a try and see where it leads me. I agree with Rayca being female and older does present it challenges with weight loss and muscle gain.

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    • Ted

      Hi Kellie, Glad you’re giving it a try. Some find gradually increasing their calorie intake helps, especially those coming from low calorie, restrictive dieting. All the best and keep us posted. 🙂

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  5. Rayca

    OMG! Ted, you healthy hunk of man. Your progress is amazing. I think diets work differently for women than men, though. And like you said, you weren’t really what’s considered overweight. For me, I seem to have to brace myself and just dive into a diet. Mostly fruits and veg really works. I also think as you get older, the stricter you need to be. It can really be a struggle to rev that metabolism.

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    • Ted

      Thanks Rayca 🙂 I agree, it is easier for men because testosterone make it a lot easier for us to gain muscle. But I would encourage you to check out flexible dieting It really has been helping a lot of people of all ages.

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  6. Rose

    is it possible to build muscle and drop BF % at the same time? I am so confused!! I want to gain muscle do badly cause I look very skinny. I weigh 110 pounds but my BF is 24% and all the fat looks like it goes to my belly. So I look skinny with a tummy 🙁
    Thanks for any info!

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    • Ted

      Hi Rose, It is but can be challenging. Are you weight training? What’s your diet like?

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      • Rose

        I do weight training 4-5 times x week…currently doing almost no cardio…some weeks I hace been doing HIIT only one day per week. I look too skinny even though I have gain 6 pounds thr last 5 months. I gain weight very slowly

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        • Ted

          Over a pound a month is pretty good actually. As a woman you will have a harder time without all that testosterone in your blood and gaining muscle will be a slow process.

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          • Rose

            Okk I have to be patient…. thanks for your response!! 🙂

  7. David

    I have started eating with the Flex Plan. I do not feel full with so little fat and protein. Carbs do not make me feel satiated. I am using the macro counter.

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    • Ted

      Hi David, What’s great about the flexible diet is that you can adjust your macros to suit your preferences. The percentages aren’t set in stone so adjust to what works for you.

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      • David

        Ted,
        I have been eating Paleo but struggling to lose some body fat. Thought I would give this plan a try. Would reducing the carb intake from 50% to 25% reduce my chance of losing the body fat while maintaining my current weight? I do crossfit 3x a week too, plus other activities.

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        • Ted

          I don’t think so. I followed a low carb diet for a while and I never achieved below 10% body fat with it. Carbs aren’t bad and help fuel your workouts. The main thing for losing or gaining is being true to your TDEE.

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  8. JamesF

    That’s one of the best posts I’ve read. What an inspiration !

    And yeah all kiwis are superfit 😉

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    • Ted

      Thanks James! You may need to visit America and see exactly what I’m talking about 🙂

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  9. Dan Bolton

    Amazing Ted! So awesome to hear about your journey and see your progress… Keep it up

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    • Dan Bolton

      Also, What’re your current macros?

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      • Ted

        Thanks Dan currently my macros are 40% carbs 30% protein and 30% fat but I base this on the amount of exercise I do so the grams per day fluctuate. I cap my protein at 1 gram per pound of body weight and eat any extra calories as carbs. On rest days I eat at my sedentary macros.

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        • Dan

          Awesome! What are your calories?

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          • Ted

            My sedentary TDEE is 1700 but then changes depending on how many calories I burn during my exercise.

        • David

          Ted, what’s your carb % on sedentary days?

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          • Ted

            My percentage is the same for both rest days and exercise days, but of course, the gram amount increases on exercise days. Currently my carbs are at 40%.

          • David

            Thanks Ted. I have been using the flex diet program for almost a month. Like it, but am not losing any body fat. I am not over weight, maybe a bit under. Been trying to stay true to my TDEE, which is 1895 cals. I have gained 6 lbs the past few weeks, which is good, but it must be water weight from the extra carbs I am eating. I was using Keifer’s Carb Night protocol to lose the extra body fat around my waist, but have stalled with BF loss. Have tried many programs to lose the BF around my waist, just like you. I would like the Flexible Diet plan to work. I am just under 6 feet tall with a medium build, am 61 yrs old (could age be a factor?). Am working on improving my sleep pattern, too. Any suggestions??

          • Ted

            6 pounds isn’t all water weight, nor do extra carbs make you retain water. Hydration fluctuations only account for a 1-3 pound variation at most. Yes, age is a factor unfortunately, but not unfixable, just makes it more challenging. . What are your workouts like?

          • David

            Workouts: Crossfit 3x a week. I go hard for the first metcon and scale down the effort on day 2 and 3. We do weight lifting each day. Also, I do not go over 12 to 15 minutes in the metcon portion for recovery purposes.

            Thanks Ted.

          • David

            I walk too for exercise and do yard work.

          • Ted

            Great! Are you adjusting your TDEE based on your calorie burn? The number you noted looks to be a sedentary TDEE.

          • David

            The TDEE number is for sedentary days. I am eating around 1895 cals on both sedentary and workout days. The past 10 days I have increased the calories to approximately 2100 to 2200 cals on workout days. My gut looks extended when eating that many calories, so I tend to reduce the calories. I am eating half my calories at dinner too.

          • Ted

            Ahhh bingo, there’s the problem. You aren’t supporting both your metabolism and your workouts with enough calories. You need to eat more my friend. A stomach bulging outwards after eating is normal and not an indication of being fat. Please see my article here. https://healthyeater.com/eat-to-lose-weight

          • David

            Thanks Ted!
            3 years ago I gained 30lbs in 3 months, thinking that this might help me gain muscle mass. I did gain a little muscle but not enough to burn the body fat, especially around the waist. The plan was to cut weight, which you have written about, bulking and cutting. I cut the weight but had MORE body fat to lose than prior to the weight gain. So, this taught to me as to never eat too much again, in order to gain muscle or mass.
            According to you and the pictures show your success, this diet plan does work as long as I stay within the needed calories and macronutrients. Here’s hoping it does!

          • David

            Just an FYI: My body composition is pretty much where you were in the first picture.

          • David

            According to the calculator my TDEE is 1895 cals, 2241 for maintenance, and, 2448 cals for moderate activity workout days.
            So, I will gain more weight but as long as I eat enough I will lose body fat. Wow! I’ll take that any day!
            Thanks Ted!